I recently wrote a blog post on how to improve the way you think about your body and appearance. I have met with countless people who are burdened by disliking themselves. It can play out in the most subtle ways; walking past a window and looking at the part of your body you dislike most, lying awake at night holding the sides of your thighs thinking they are too big, not wanting to enjoy a meal out with friends because you've already "eaten enough" that day, or dressing in a way where clothes hang off you in order to hide your figure. Whatever you do that makes you aware of what you don't like about yourself, I am here to tell you that you don't have to live with this burden any longer.
I have found that although I may never have my "idea" of the "perfect body," I can live in a way where I love myself and the way I look, where I hardly think about my appearance, where I don't need to attain a certain "ideal," and I can feel free to make healthy decisions while accepting the weight and shape that comes from those decisions, even when I choose to be flexible around food. Here are...
My Top Tips For How To Love Your Imperfect Body.
The power of the mind to change your focus is limitless. For clients of mine who want to develop a more confident sense of self, I suggest they practice the following:
- Look at yourself in the mirror daily and state three things you like about your body. If you can’t do that, state three things you could like about your body.
- When a negative thought comes into your head, counter it with a positive thought, e.g. “My hair looks terrible... but my skin is looking good today.”
- When you have a negative thought about your appearance, try and counter it with a thought unrelated to the body, “Even if my thighs are holding excess weight at the moment, that does not change my worth, and I have decided to be a person who values character, not the body. One thing I value about myself is....”
- Smiling does wonders: if you feel sad about how you look, or that you will never be able to be as "perfect" as you want to be, smile about something you value in life. It can really help.
- Be thankful for what your body can do for you instead of what it isn’t, e.g. “I am thankful that I have legs to run, or that I have hands to clap, or that I have lips to kiss my partner.”
I look forward to hearing from any of you who would like to share your story with me.
Best wishes for your journey ahead xx
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